Monday, October 05, 2009

Dating advice

speed-dating-end My friend, a woman (let’s call her Jane), just asked me dating advice. Why I don’t know because I am probably not the best to give it, but her question went something like this (over text message):

Went on a date.  Was ok.  Not bad at all but not smitten. Kissed goodnight. Agreed to a 2nd date. Now having reservations.  If I am not super into him then why waste time.

I couldn’t agree more – and not just because of the time she would be wasting. Both parties would be wasting time. If there is no connection then move on. There are plenty of other people out there. 

However, most girls I know don’t throw kisses around on the first date unless they are into the other party. With that in mind I think Jane should think about the following:

- If she goes on many dates then she should abort any future dates with this guy. Even though they kissed, not a big deal, Jane does this a lot maybe (not judging here)

- If she doesn’t go on many dates and she kissed this guy, and that is rare for her, then she should give it another go. There must have been a connection. The guy is worth another shot. Maybe he was nervous, not acting like his normal self – there could be more there.

-  If Jane was drunk at all at the time then she should cut ties now. The kiss may have sounded good at the time, but not afterwards, and since Jane isn’t smitten then its not going to get better

But what do I know…

Tune in next time to find out what Jane does!

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

The rule is three dates and a kiss. If after three dates, you "are just not that into them" than cut bait and call it done.

You should be sober for at least one date or some nasty reality may kick you in the ass later.

But that's just my opinion.

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